This is another lovely story about healing from grief, but what really struck me was this...
Debbie experienced a tremendous amount of guilt and self-hatred over her inability to cure her daughter or even to help her sometimes when she was in pain. "It was so hard to talk to her about her illness and what its repercussions might be. This was my child, she was my responsibility, but I could do nothing to save her.
From Grief and Renewal: One Mother's Story
Recently I've been thinking a lot about why the loss of a child is so much harder to recover from than other kinds of losses. At some level we all get it. Losing a child is beyond the beyond of horrible. Just look at how we as a nation, responded to Christina Taylor Green's death in Tucson. Anyone not know who I'm talking aobut? That's my point. We all get it, and it seems to me there's more under the surface that we never seem to get at.
I suspect the passage above holds a clue. At some level, parents feel responsible even when there was nothing they could have done to change the outcome. No matter how a child dies, parent feel responsible.
What do you think?
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