Friday, November 5, 2010

A Good List of What Not to Say to Someone Who's Grieving

Here's a great beginning list of the things you should never say to someone who is grieving. This is a hot, hot topic in every grief support groups I've ever facilitated, and it doesn't seem to be getting any better.

Somehow knowing that these stupid statements are coming from a profound discomfort with death and the people who are grieving, doesn't help much.

  • It’s time for you to move on
  • No one will want you if you keep pictures of your dearly departed in your house
  • Haven’t you mourned long enough?
  • When are you going to start dating again?
  • You have to let go of the memories of your late spouse to accept new love in your life
  • You can’t keep talking about your late spouse with your new love
  • Why don’t you just let him/her go already?
  • Why aren’t you happier?
  • You need to just focus on raising your children and not dating again
  • It’s too soon for you to date

Read the full article Oh, no you didn’t!

I'm on a mission to educate, so feel free to add your own to the list.

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